Episode 9: Exploring the Four Landscapes of Attachment with Geoff & Cyd Holsclaw
Aug 27, 2024
Have you heard of Attachment Theory? Have you ever found yourself lost in the language and terminology? Have you wondered if your less-than-perfect childhood and history of abuse or trauma means you're stuck in a specific style?
Geoff and Cyd Holsclaw offer simple, easy to understand language around the concept of Attachment using the visual landscapes of the Pasture, Jungle, Desert, and War Zone. By laying a foundation of joy, Geoff and Cyd explain how our capacity for intimacy and independence can help us move us toward more healthy and whole relationships.
They also share a preview of their "Repairing Distorted Defaults" session at the upcoming Broken to Beloved Conference on September 26.
If you've longed for more secure relationships and a better understanding of your interior landscape, this episode's for you.
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It’s really helpful to know your landscape, because it defines the way that you’re looking at relationships, it defines the way that you’re looking at people, and it defines the assumptions you make about what everybody needs.
When we can get curious about it, and curious about how the other people that we know and are living around and attached with and trying to follow Jesus with, when we start to notice that we’re doing that from different places, then it changes the conversations. It changes the ability to understand and be compassionate toward each other.
That first step is finding and forming relationships with people in your life that you feel like you can have that reciprocal relationship with, and then beginning to test out the complementing of the tools that you already have, or the gifts that you already have, because all of the things that you do in a jungle, all of the things that you do in a desert, everything that you do in a war zone, you do for a good reason, because it helps you survive whatever you were in and so it’s not like you need to get rid of everything.
We have a saying in our marriage, which is that I, as from the desert, could be technically right, but relationally wrong.
Episode Resources and Links
- Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and John Townsend at Bookshop.org | on Amazon
- Episode 001: Navigating Toxic System and Maintaining Agency with Dr. Alison Cook
- Broken to Beloved Conference info and registration
- Broken to Beloved Gathering info and registration
Guest Spotlight
Geoff (PhD) is an author of multiple books, affiliate professor of theology at Northern Seminary.
Cyd is an author, spiritual director, and pastor. She is also a trauma-informed, Jesus-centered, integrative coach focused on embodied practices and building a secure attachment to God.
Together, they co-host the Attached to God podcast, offering a neuroscience-informed spiritual formation and are the co-author of Does God Really Like Me? Discovering the God Who Wants to Be With You.
Website | Cyd’s website | Geoff’s Instagram | Geoff’s Facebook
Does God Really Like Me? on Amazon
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